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๐—จ๐—ก๐——๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—”๐—ก๐——๐—œ๐—ก๐—š, ๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—–๐—ข๐—š๐—ก๐—œ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—”๐—ก๐—— ๐—”๐——๐——๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—–๐—ข๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—–๐—œ๐—ฉ๐—˜ ๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—ง๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—Ÿ - ๐—” ๐—™๐—ข๐—ฅ๐—  ๐—ข๐—™ ๐——๐—ข๐— ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—œ๐—– ๐—”๐—•๐—จ๐—ฆ๐—˜.

๐—จ๐—ก๐——๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—”๐—ก๐——๐—œ๐—ก๐—š, ๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—–๐—ข๐—š๐—ก๐—œ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—”๐—ก๐—— ๐—”๐——๐——๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—–๐—ข๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—–๐—œ๐—ฉ๐—˜ ๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—ง๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—Ÿ - ๐—” ๐—™๐—ข๐—ฅ๐—  ๐—ข๐—™ ๐——๐—ข๐— ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—œ๐—– ๐—”๐—•๐—จ๐—ฆ๐—˜.


Coercive control is a subtle yet insidious form of domestic abuse that can have devastating and long lasting effects on victims.

Unlike physical violence, which may leave visible scars, coercive control operates through a pattern of manipulative behaviours aimed at dominating and controlling the victim's thoughts, feelings, and actions.

In this article, we will explore what coercive control entails, its impact on victims, and strategies for recognising and addressing this form of abuse.


๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น?

Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour used by an abuser to exert power and control over their partner or family member. It often involves a range of tactics aimed at undermining the victim's autonomy, self esteem, and sense of agency.


These tactics may include:


๐—œ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป

The abuser may isolate the victim from friends, family, and support networks, making them dependent on the abuser for emotional and practical needs.


๐— ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ถ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ

The abuser may excessively monitor the victim's activities, including phone calls, texts, emails, and social media interactions, creating a pervasive sense of surveillance and invasion of privacy.


๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—š๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—น๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด

The abuser may use manipulation tactics to distort the victim's perception of reality, making them doubt their own thoughts, feelings, and memories. Gaslighting techniques may involve denial, trivialisation, and blame shifting to undermine the victim's confidence and sense of reality.


๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜€

The abuser may use threats, intimidation, and coercion to instill fear and compliance in the victim. This can include verbal threats of violence, destruction of property, or threats against loved ones.


๐—™๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น

The abuser may control the victim's access to financial resources, such as limiting their ability to work, controlling their earnings, or withholding money for basic needs.


๐—˜๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—”๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ

Coercive control often involves emotional abuse, including insults, humiliation, degradation, and manipulation of the victim's emotions to maintain power and control.


๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐—œ๐— ๐—ฃ๐—”๐—–๐—ง ๐—ข๐—™ ๐—–๐—ข๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—–๐—œ๐—ฉ๐—˜ ๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—ง๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—Ÿ


The effects of coercive control can be profound and far reaching, impacting every aspect of the victim's life.


Some common effects include:


๐—ฃ๐˜€๐˜†๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ง๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฎ

Victims of coercive control may experience anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and other mental health issues as a result of the ongoing abuse and manipulation.


๐—œ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—”๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป

Coercive control can leave victims feeling isolated and cut off from support networks, exacerbating feelings of loneliness, helplessness, and dependency on the abuser.


๐—ฃ๐—ต๐˜†๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—›๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜๐—ต ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—พ๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐˜€

The stress and anxiety caused by coercive control can have physical health consequences, including headaches, digestive issues, high blood pressure, and increased risk of chronic illness.


๐—œ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—–๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป

Coercive control within the family dynamic can have detrimental effects on children who witness or experience the abuse, leading to emotional and behavioural problems, difficulty forming healthy relationships, and long term psychological trauma.


๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—–๐—ข๐—š๐—ก๐—œ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—”๐—ก๐—— ๐—”๐——๐——๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—–๐—ข๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—–๐—œ๐—ฉ๐—˜ ๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—ง๐—ฅ๐—ข๐—Ÿ


Recognising coercive control can be challenging, as it often occurs gradually and subtly, making it difficult for victims to identify the abuse.


However, there are signs and red flags to watch out for, including:


๐—œ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—™๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜† The victim may become increasingly isolated from friends, family, and support networks, often at the order of the abuser.


๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐— ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ถ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ

The abuser may exhibit controlling behaviours such as monitoring the victim's communications, tracking their movements, or demanding constant updates on their whereabouts.


๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—š๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—น๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€

The abuser may engage in gaslighting tactics, making the victim doubt their own perceptions, memories, and experiences.


๐—™๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐——๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ

The victim may have limited access to financial resources, with the abuser controlling their finances and limiting their ability to work or access money.


๐—˜๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—”๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป

The victim may experience emotional abuse, insults, threats, and intimidation from the abuser, creating a climate of fear and control.

If you or someone you know is experiencing coercive control, it's essential to seek help and support. This may include reaching out to trusted friends or family members, contacting a domestic violence hotline or support organisation, or seeking assistance from Police or legal professionals.

Remember that coercive control is a form of domestic abuse, and no one deserves to live in fear or oppression. By recognising the signs of coercive control and taking action to address it, victims can begin to reclaim their autonomy, safety, and well being.

DJN

Fendo UK

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